If it’s not a “hell yes!” maybe it is still a “yes”
How I make decisions as an overthinker
I’m an overthinker. Sometimes it’s hard for me to connect with what I want and know what is a “yes” and what is a “no”. So many of my responses tend to be “maybe”.
I’ve learned to stop expecting deep resounding “yesses” that light me up with positive anticipation reverberating throughout my whole body.
Sometimes I get that feeling, but the absence of it doesn’t necessarily mean that the answer is no.
I’ve learnt that if I’m ambivalent about trying something new, I should try it.
Ambivalence means that I want to do it, but a part of me is overthinking and coming up with excuses because I’m afraid.
A “no” is of course a no and I respect that. Things that are likely to put my safety at risk are also a no. But an “I’m not sure, maybe” … means there’s probably a yes in there for me to follow.
I felt ambivalence many times when I was away on my solo holiday and was deciding whether I should explore new places.
One example was thinking about going to the new town in Albufeira for a night out. I’d heard it was party central, and I do love a good dance. But I was also worried about getting back to the hostel as transport…
